Season 1: Questions Every Wife Is Asking

You’re not the only one curious about the manbrain. Maybe you’re wondering, “Why’s he so interested in sex?” Or, “How can I respect him if he doesn’t deserve it?” Harvard grad and best-selling author and researcher Shaunti Feldhahn teams up with Brian Goins to discuss your nagging questions so you can find out what your man is thinking—and transform your marital friction points into sparks of passion.

Season one of "Married With Benefits" comes to a close in glorious, speed-round fashion as Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn field rapid-fire questions live from 1000 women. Find out if your burning question made the show. View Show Notes →
No, your husband doesn't act like those guys in the Hallmark movies. Not even close. Shaunti Feldhahn and Brian Goins explain why that's by God's design and why it's actually a good thing for you and for your marriage. View Show Notes →
Does your husband "power down" after work right when you need to talk? Shaunti Feldhahn and Brian Goins demystify this common frustration and offer tips to draw him out, including what you can learn from ESPN to gain and hold your husband’s attention. View Show Notes →
You want him to listen but he glazes over or tries to "fix it," frustrating you and making things worse. Shaunti Feldhahn and Brian Goins explain two steps to changing this dynamic, plus a pro tip just for wives to help you be heard every time. View Show Notes →
Do men secretly wish their wives looked like bikini models? The shocking results are in. Shaunti Feldhahn and Brian Goins discuss and offer wives practical guidance on overcoming their most common insecurities. View Show Notes →
Can you or your husband still have friends of the opposite sex? Yes, but with a few caveats (#itscomplicated). Shaunti Feldhahn and Brian Goins offer calming wisdom on a lightning-rod topic. Learn how to guard your marriage without putting your head in the sand. View Show Notes →
Why would a husband choose video games over his wife? Isn't that juvenile and destructive for a marriage? Shaunti Feldhahn and Brian Goins discuss this sensitive topic in search of win/win solutions for both husband and wife. View Show Notes →
Providing financially while also building family relationships is hard for many husbands to balance. Often it's the wife yearning for more closeness at home. Learn how to talk it through and together find the work/home balance you desire. View Show Notes →
Honey, the trash needs to go out, but please don't take it now because I like asking 12 times, said no wife ever! Then why is this so common? Shaunti Feldhahn and Brian Goins explain what's really behind this and how to move a husband to action without nagging. View Show Notes →
Does your husband always try to carry the groceries in a single trip? You may be surprised when you learn why he does that. Shaunti Feldhahn and Brian Goins crack open the mystery and explain why he risks breaking all those eggs. View Show Notes →
When a husband doesn't deserve respect, should his wife show it anyway? Shaunti Feldhahn describes what many women have discovered by doing just that. This isn't a naive pep talk. It's a presentation of transformational steps wives can take when their husband shows little respectability. View Show Notes →
Do you and your husband butt heads over the kids? Are you the disciplinarian while he plays the fun parent? Shaunti Feldhahn gives three tips for dealing with parenting impasses, plus a secret to help your husband see your point of view. View Show Notes →
Porn is disgusting, fake, and destructive, right? So how could your husband be tempted by it? Shaunti Feldhahn explains, with brain science and biblical wisdom, that while never excusing the sin, you can play a compassionate role in helping him win the battle. View Show Notes →
Does your husband sulk or get angry over the weirdest things? Shaunti Feldhahn explains common mail triggers and what's underneath them. She also provides a "next day rule" that will help you avoid these conflicts altogether. View Show Notes →
Wives often think their husbands need sex for only physical reasons. Wrong. Shaunti Feldhahn reveals why having his wife's desire meets a deep emotional need for a husband that will strengthen the bond of marriage and bolster every other area of his life. View Show Notes →

Meet Series Guests

Shaunti Feldhahn

Shaunti received her graduate degree from Harvard University and was an analyst on Wall Street before unexpectedly becoming a social researcher, best-selling author and popular speaker. Today, she applies her analytical skills to investigating eye-opening, life-changing truths about relationships, both at home and in the workplace. Her groundbreaking research-based books, such as For Women Only, have sold more than 3 million copies in 25 languages and are widely read in homes, counseling centers and corporations worldwide.

In 2020, Shaunti, together with her husband Jeff Feldhahn, released Thriving in Love & Money. Little did they know just how timely this book would be as the world suddenly changed and couples needed to be able to talk about money more than ever. While most money books deal with surface issues of budgeting and debt, many couples struggle to even talk about money and it creates tension and a barrier to true oneness in their relationship. This is the money book that’s not about the money. It uncovers the issues that cause money conflicts and provide couples with truths that are relationship game-changers. Because you need a better relationship, not just a better budget. Find out more at thriveinloveandmoney.com.

Her book, The Kindness Challenge, continues to catalyze a much-needed movement of kindness across the country and beyond. Dozens of prominent organizations and leaders are coming together to do The 30-Day Kindness Challenge, and encourage their followers to do the same.

Shaunti’s findings are regularly featured in media as diverse as The Today Show and Focus on the Family, The New York Times and Cosmo. She (often with her husband, Jeff) speak at both live and on-line events in the U.S. and around the world. Shaunti and her husband Jeff live in Atlanta with their daughter and son, and two cats who think they are dogs.