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Great Money Milestones

with Art Rainer | May 12, 2021
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Our purse strings are tied to our heart strings. Financial advisor Art Rainer encourages believers to showcase the generosity of God by giving generously to those in need.
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Our purse strings are tied to our heart strings. Financial advisor Art Rainer encourages believers to showcase the generosity of God by giving generously to those in need.

Great Money Milestones

With Art Rainer
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May 12, 2021
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Bob: This is FamilyLife Today for Wednesday, May 12th. Our hosts are Dave and Ann Wilson; I’m Bob Lepine. You can find us online at FamilyLifeToday.com. There are biblical ways to think about money; there are also worldly ways to think about your finances. We’re going to talk today about the difference between those two approaches. Stay with us.

And welcome to FamilyLife Today. Thanks for joining us. Dave, you served for years as a pastor in a church with a lot of young couples; and you still have a lot of ongoing conversations today with couples about marriage and about money. Do you thing the average young couple, in most local churches today, is headed in a good direction when it comes to money; or do you think they are headed in a direction that is going to cause problems for them later on?

Dave: Boy, oh boy, Bob, that’s a loaded question. [Laughter]

Bob: It is; isn’t it?

Dave: I would say it all depends. My first thought was: “Boy, a lot of them are probably headed in not a good direction.”

Bob: Right.

Dave: Yet, then, I think there are quite a few that have really—I think in some ways, because of 2008 and 2009, have seen the devastation money can have. They’ve said, “I’ve got to have a plan,”—so that’s encouraging.

Ann: I think the thing that I feel bad about for the kids coming out of college is the amount of college debt that they have—it’s from school loans—it’s devastating. I feel there is a sense of hopelessness: “Can I ever get out of this?”

Bob: Yes; I think the average young couple—where they are starting today is different than where we started, because I didn’t start with student loans; but if you are starting today—and you’ve got $40,000 in student loans—and you’re trying to buy a house, or you’re trying to have a child, or you’re trying to do this and that, you’re just starting with a bigger burden already in it.

It’s interesting to me—we’re talking with Art Rainer this week, who wrote a book called The Marriage Challenge—and Art, welcome back.

Art: Thank you for having me.

Bob: You work at an institution of higher learning. I’m guessing that more than one or two of the students there are taking out student loans so that they can get a seminary degree.

Art: We are very passionate about trying to keep our tuition down and our costs as low as possible. We’re a seminary, which means that we are sending out ministers, pastors, missionaries—not just in our own state and nation but, literally, around the world—so because of that, making sure that our students don’t take on student loan debt. Now, we can’t completely prevent them.

Bob: Right.


Art: But we can do everything in our power to reduce the likelihood of them getting student loans; because if they have student loans, then their ability to—say, go overseas and be on a mission field—diminishes dramatically. What we want to do is—we want to, obviously, prevent that burden from happening as much as possible—but across the nation, it is absolutely a problem.

Bob: Yes.

Art: You’re right. College students/they are graduating with a ton of debt; and likely, they are entering marriages with a lot of debt.

Bob: By the way, we’ve got one of your graduates on our staff at our church. He’s a graduate of Southeastern Baptist Theological Seminary in Wake Forest, and he has no debt owed to Southeastern. He still has undergraduate debt that he is paying off; but he was able to get through seminary, in large part, because you’ve made this a priority there to try to help these young men and young women, who are going to the seminary, not incur debt; because you know that’s going to encumber them as they try to do what they are studying to do.

Art: Yes; it’s mission critical for our school.

Dave: What about you, Bob? I was thinking about—there is the parent side of this school debt as well—when you are a parent, you are trying to help alleviate debt for your kids. What did you do with yours, Bob?

Bob: Here was what we did. We tried to set aside money so that our kids could get a basic college education—maybe, two years of community college and finish up at a state school—we’d have enough money to kind of cover that. If they wanted to go somewhere bigger, better, nicer, they’d either raise the money themselves or they’d get scholarships to be able to do it. By God’s grace, none of our kids graduated with student debt. They look to us today and say, “Thank you so much,” because they are looking at their peers—

Dave: Right.

Bob: —and they recognize what a head start they’ve got in life, and the choices and the options that are available to them, that their peers can’t even consider; because they don’t have the school-debt issue.

I recognize some families can’t put aside the money to save for two years of community college; but I would say to those families: “Let’s help your son or daughter figure out how the part-time job and a work study something—do everything you can—to try to fight going into $30,000 in debt per year for your kid to go to some elite school.”

You’re talking, not to the moms and dads, in this book, The Marriage Challenge. You’re talking to the kids, who are the ones who are graduating, getting married, and have some of this debt. They are thinking: “How do we ever get to where we’re solvent? We can’t even think about setting aside money for our own kids’ education; we haven’t paid for ours yet.”

You’ve got a pathway in the book, The Marriage Challenge, and most people are stunned at where you start. The first step, in your journey to getting financially solvent, is what?

Art: Start giving. And this is not an Art Rainer thing; it’s a Bible thing. As you read in the Bible about money, and money management, we see that giving is to be our priority.

Bob: We’re to share the communicable attributes of God. As followers of Christ, we want to be like God: so God is loving; we want to be loving. God is gracious; we want to be gracious. Guess what?— “God so loved the world”—what did He do?

Ann: —He gave.

Bob: —He gave.

The giving-ness of God is one of His communicable attributes. You can’t be Christ-like and not be giving.

Art: You’re absolutely right. I like to showcase the generosity of our God by simply walking through the principles of giving that we find in Scripture. First of all, giving is to be a priority: Proverbs 3:9, among other places, that we are to give our first and our best. What that means for us is take a portion of our gross income—so before taxes—and commit that to God.

Principle Number Two is: “To make sure that giving is done proportionately.” Those who have more, give more; those who have less, give less. We give according to what God has given us. We see that throughout Scripture. You can point to Malachi 3:10, where it talks about taking a tenth and giving that to the storehouse/to the local church. I don’t want to get hung up on that  ten percent; but it is a proportion of what we have been given.

Principle Number Three is: “To give sacrificially.” Giving sometimes is going to hurt and, actually, should hurt. If we follow what we see in Scripture, it’s not about the leftovers. If you’re making/giving it a priority—meaning that you are using the first thing that you do with your money is give—it’s going to be sacrificial.

Then, finally: “Giving is to be done cheerfully: ‘God loves a cheerful giver.’”

As we look at those four principles, we see God leading us in each of them.

Principle Number One: “Giving is to be a priority.” Where do we see that?—God gave His first and His best—His one and His only Son, Jesus.

“Giving is to be done proportionately.” Where do we see that? Well, God, who owns everything—the Creator of the sun, the moon, the stars—gave us the gift that simply could not be matched/the largest gift that has ever been known. He gave proportionately.

“We’re to give sacrificially.” How does God lead us in that? Maybe, a little bit more self-explanatory in the sacrifice of Jesus.

Then “We’re to give cheerfully.” That’s actually found in

Isaiah 53:10, where we see God finding pleasure in the crushing of His own Son. It says that He found pleasure in that. Now, of course, you have to ask the question: “Why?” or “How?”—“How can that happen?” Well, God was looking through the lens of eternity; and He saw the outcome. Isaiah 53:10 says that He looked at the seed—He looked at me and you—and what the outcome would be because of the sacrifice of His Son.

So even in the midst of sacrifice, we can still find joy; because we are looking through the lens of eternity. We’re seeing that, what will happen with these resources, God is going to take these resources and do things and impact lives in ways that we simply cannot and may not even know until we’re on the other side of eternity.”

Dave: Art, what would you say to a couple listening, and they are thinking: “Milestone Number 1 is be generous. Let’s be generous.” They’ve never done this. Where do they start?

Art: Well, I think ten percent is a great goal to get to. If you have not given, and you’re just reluctant to doing so, start with, at least, one percent. Start—I always say, “Start somewhere and then watch what God does.” More than likely, if it’s one percent, you’re going to realize, “Well, that actually was not that much money, and I can give a little bit more.”

Bob: Right.

Art: It starts somewhere. Start at that one percent, and then—and I include this in The Marriage Challenge—it’s called the “take-off”; it takes you to months four and seven: “Okay, go to three percent; then go to five percent; and then seven; and then by the end of the year, you are at ten percent.” So make it a goal.

Now, at the same time, some listeners would say, “I have been giving a tithe or ten percent all of my life.” I would say, “Well, let’s revisit what it means to give.” Is your giving sacrificial, or has ten percent become a box that’s just been checked?—

Bob: You check it; yes.

Art: —then, you feel like you’re good; you’ve done your deed. If that’s true, then, even though you are giving more than this person, who is giving one percent, it still doesn’t mean you are necessarily giving biblically according to what the Scripture teaches us about giving; because of that element of sacrifice is missing. It’s a great goal to get to, but don’t let it be a limit.

I mean, we look at the New Testament giving. They are going way beyond the ten percent. Even when you look at the Old Testament—you start looking at the number of times that they are commanded to give—it actually gets above that ten percent mark as well.

Bob: You know, we said, “There is a path, and it starts with giving”; and then we kind of got stuck talking about giving. I want to make sure we get down the rest of the path here for folks and just kind of walk them through it.

But I just want to say—because there may be some folks, who are listening, and they are going: “I know why FamilyLife Today is doing shows, where they are talking about giving; you guys are a nonprofit—let me just say, “We believe, first of all, that your primary giving should be to your local church; so that’s number one. If you ever hear us say anything different than that, write us and tell us; because that/we don’t want you taking away from the ministry of your local church to support us.

But we do want people, who share the vision and the values of this ministry, to say: “I want to invest there. I want to see this expand and grow. I want to be a part of what God is doing through this ministry. I want it to be a part of my ministry.” We’re not starting here to be manipulative; but we are starting here because the Bible says, “This is a part of how we are to live as kingdom-minded people.”

Now, let me get to the rest of the path; because you start with giving. Then you put money aside for an emergency fund, and you say $1,500 is a good number?

Art: —$1,500 to cover what I call a minor emergency—so if your tire goes flat, if your washer for some reason no longer works, or your dryer no longer works—you have money set aside for that. I don’t want to understate the importance of that $1,500. Right now, 40 percent of Americans can’t afford an emergency that is $400 or more; so getting to that $1,500 is a big deal.

Bob: Once you are giving, and once you’ve gotten to $1,500 that’s in this rainy day emergency fund, next thing you say is: “If your company has got a 401k or 403b retirement thing, you give as much as is being matched by the company”; right?

Art: That’s right. Some companies have what they call a company match. What happens—you put three percent into your retirement account; and they agree to match, maybe, one hundred percent up to that three percent—so an additional three percent. If your company/if your organization offers some type of company match, take it.

Bob: Yes; that’s free money right there.

Art: I would argue to say it’s earned money, because it’s a part of your employment there; it’s a part of your benefits. If you’re not participating in that/if you are not getting that match, then you are leaving money on the table. Even if the company match seems small, I can’t explain enough how important that small amount can mean over a long period of time—

Bob: Right.

Art: —because you have something that is called compounding; it’s where your money is basically making money off of itself.

Bob: You’ll be amazed at—what the $125 a month you are putting aside—what that winds up looking like in 15 years.

Art: There is a chart in The Marriage Challenge that demonstrates the power of compounding. I assume that somebody sets aside—when they are 16/17/18, through their summer job—$2,000 a year: $6,000 over a three-year period of time—and that’s it. They simply invest that $6,000 in the S&P 500, which is just a/it’s an index in which you can invest. If the return mirrors that particular index, then from ages 16 to 65—and I’m using real returns from the S&P 500—that $6,000 turns into $600,000, and that’s the power of compounding.

It may seem like a small amount of money—three percent; it may seem small—but over a long period of time, it can actually equate to a lot of money.


Bob: So take advantage of a retirement account. Then make sure you get rid of all of your debt, except the mortgage. You say it’s okay to have a mortgage—you’re paying that down—it’s an appreciating asset.

Art: That’s right.

Bob: So get rid of the credit card debt; get rid of the school debt; get rid of anything that’s on your car loans—pay all of that off. Leave your mortgage alone. Then start to save three to six months of living expenses for a major emergency. You’d like to think—if you lost your job—you could go for six months, in an emergency situation, and kind of live on what you’ve got saved. Then the next thing is to put 15 percent of your gross income toward retirement and then save for college or pay off your mortgage. You end with: “Live generously.”

Art: That’s right.

Bob: You start with “Give,” and you end with “Live generously.” Giving is the starting place; but generosity is really the goal; isn’t it?

Art: That’s right. Our goal is to manage our money in a way that allows us to advance God’s kingdom/that allows us to use our resources to live and give generously. We’re not talking about financial health just for the sake of financial health. Admittedly, I have no interest in that. I get excited about helping people get financially healthy so that, then, they can be a part of reaching their community and the world for Christ.


I always say that you’re not getting out of debt so that you can simply go buy another toaster. [Laughter] If you need a toaster, that’s fine—you can go buy it—but that’s not why you are getting out of debt. You are getting out of debt because there’s an unreached people group—so a group that has never heard the name, Jesus; nobody has gone to tell them, yet on the other side of the world—you’re getting out of debt so that that group can hear—

Bob: —about Jesus.

Art: —about Jesus for the first time. You are getting out of debt so that people in your community can hear about Jesus—sometimes, for the first time—that’s the motivation.

As believers, we’re motivated by something entirely different than momentary satisfaction, something entirely different than just simply making sure that you have the newest and best car, an upgraded home—not that those things are bad in and of themselves—but if they become the motivation, you’re going to find yourself discontent. You’re going to find yourself frustrated, because they are never going to deliver on the promise/the supposed promise that they make.

God has wired us for generosity. We are designed for generous living; we’re designed, not to be hoarders, but conduits through which His generosity flows.

Bob: We already know you’re an outlier because, at age 16, you started an IRA; okay? So we know that. You’re married.

Art: I am married.

Bob: How many kids?

Art: Three.

Bob: Married, three kids; you’re in higher education, which is not a field that is known to be a place where you make a ton of money.

Art: That’s right.

Bob: Have you paid off all debt except your mortgage?

Art: Yes; and the mortgage is very close to being paid off.

Bob: You’ve got three to six months’ worth of living set aside somewhere?

Art: Yes; and a little bit more because my wife is more of the Saver. I’m a Saver, but she’s like a real Saver.

Bob: Oh, my goodness!

Art: I sacrifice for her sake by actually allowing us to have a little bit more in there so that she is more comfortable.

Bob: Are you putting 15 percent of your gross toward retirement?

Art: More; yes.

Bob: So you’re living this.

Art: Yes; which means that you are going to be making decisions—you’re going to—that are going to look a little bit odd at times.

Bob: So do your kids get swim lessons, or—

Art: We’ll throw them in a pond and tell them to paddle. [Laughter]

Dave: “Move the arms.”

Bob: Do they get new notebooks when they go to school? You’re able to pay for the basics?

Art: They do; they go to a public school in our area. It’s a really good school—not that I have anything against private school/homeschooling—but we’ve just made some decisions that allow us to make generosity a priority. That’s our motivating factor—even for paying off our mortgage—that’s why we are doing it so that we can live and give more generously.

Bob: I’m just wanting people to hear, “It’s not impossible.” This is not something you read; and you go, “Well, nobody can actually live like that.” Art and his wife are doing it, and there are others who are doing it. The liberation that comes—

Dave: Yes; that’s what I was going to say—the liberation; the word I think of is “freedom”—and most people, when they think about money, that’s not what they think—they think, “bondage”; they think, “anxiety.”

I can remember lying in bed, not being able to sleep, sweating, thinking about college fund for my kids, think about paying the mortgage; and freedom was so far. You know why? I had no plan/had no milestones—just doing the American thing—living paycheck to paycheck: “Oh, I want those,” “I’m going to buy that.”

When we got on a plan and said—okay; here is the thing/here’s the thing—when you have a plan and you start to live it—again, we didn’t use the envelopes; but it could be envelopes or not envelopes—but you still have to have a plan, and a budget, and these milestones you are living by: “You can go to the movie,”—this is what I always say to people at our church—“and you can buy the big popcorn!” You know why? You can live in freedom, because why? First of all, “I’m giving; I’m putting money away…” Then, I walk in there, and it’s like I don’t have to be, “Oh, I’ve got to get the little, tiny…”—it’s like—“Let’s enjoy the movie, because we’ve taken care of those things.”


Again, it’s not simple; but it’s like you said, Art—

Ann: It’s a disciplined life.

Dave: —you’ve got to make hard decisions that really are important that matter—and you’ll sleep at night.

Art: That’s how the milestones build off of one another. They get you started; and it’s amazing—when you get to Milestone Seven or even Milestone Eight—and you look back on it, you say: “Wow! It’s amazing what God did through this. It’s amazing how God...” It’s because you took these little steps, all along the way, that allowed you to experience living and giving generously in ways that you just weren’t able to do before.


Bob: Thank you for helping couples.

Ann: Yes.

Bob: Thank you for helping us.

Art: Thanks for having me.

Bob: I hope a lot of couples will get this book. I would love to see small groups of young couples—

Ann: Yes.

Bob: —going through this material together and holding one another accountable, and challenging one another, and saying: “Let’s do this. Let’s get out of the spin cycle we’re in, and let’s start to live in alignment with God’s desire for us and to advance His kingdom.”
 

We’ve got copies of Art’s book, The Marriage Challenge, available in our FamilyLife Today Resource Center. Go online to FamilyLifeToday.com to order, or call 1-800-FL-TODAY. Again, our website is FamilyLifeToday.com. You can call to order the book, The Marriage Challenge. Our number is 1-800-358-6329; that’s 1-800-“F” as in family, “L” as in life, and then the word, “TODAY.”

I don’t know if we realize this, as parents—but how we talk about money—our kids are paying attention. In fact, Mary Ann and I used to have conversations about: “Yes; what are we going to do about that? What about that expense?” Our kids would get anxious; they’d get nervous—like, “Are we going to the poor farm?”—they didn’t know what the poor farm was; they just heard us talk about that.

David Robbins is here with us in the studio. You were shaped by conversations you heard your parents have.

David: Oh, yes; I vividly remember, in high school, my parents starting to talk about money, intentionally and together, in a way that they had not previously in this refreshed and renewed way. It marked me, because I saw their oneness grow. I saw how on-the- same page they got. I remember some of those financial meetings, where I just wanted to close my ears and go into the other room; but I also remember how they would get up from the table and go for a walk and keep talking. It shaped my life; it shaped my view of money.

If you are asking yourself—like, “Where are we even, and where do we even start?”—I loved Art’s suggestion that he shared about just having a conversation with your spouse about your money personalities, especially in your current season of life. Obviously, we don’t want to make it accusatory; but talk together about what personality you think each other reflects when it comes to money: being a Saver, or a Spender, Investor, or Ignorer.

We do this often with pre-marriage counseling and as newlyweds—and we kind of enter out of the gate well—but then life just takes its course; and we just settle into: “Well, this is who we are when it comes to money.” But God has more for us than that. It will shape you to have these conversations, and it will shape your family.

Bob: Yes; that’s a good word. Thank you, David.

We should also mention for our listeners that money is on our mind, here, at FamilyLife® during the month of May because of the matching gift that has been made available to us by some friends of the ministry. Every donation we’re receiving this month is being matched, dollar for dollar, up to a total of $250,000. And by the way, thank you to those of you who have already called or gone online and made a donation; your donation has been doubled as a result of this matching gift and we are grateful for that.

When you make a donation today, in addition to that donation being matched, we’re also going to send you a couple of thank-you gifts. We’ll send you two books from Aaron and Jamie Ivey—a book that Aaron wrote for husbands and a book that Jamie wrote for wives—they both have the same title: Complement: The Surprising Beauty of Choosing Together Over Separate in Marriage.

And along with the books, we’re going to send you a flash drive that includes some recent conversations that Dave and Ann and I have had about some of the highlights of the last 28 years, here, at FamilyLife—guests we’ve had; ideas that have been shared on this program—just the stuff that has stuck with me over the years. You’ll get the flash drive and the books as our way of saying, “Thank you,” when you make a donation today. Again, you can do that online at FamilyLifeToday.com; or call 1-800-FL-TODAY to do that.

Now, tomorrow, we’re going to talk about some of the unique challenges that couples, who are in blended marriages, face when it comes to money. This is actually something you should be thinking about before you form a blended family. Ron Deal will be here to talk about how smart stepfamilies handle financial issues. I hope you can tune in for that.

I want to thank our engineer today, Keith Lynch, who got some extra help from Bruce Goff and our entire broadcast production team. On behalf of our hosts, Dave and Ann Wilson, I’m Bob Lepine. We will see you back next time for another edition of FamilyLife Today.

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