What Lies Beneath
The masters of relationships know how to hear what's not being said. What lies beneath, if you will, unlike emotions and they respond to that instead of the words on the surface. So with a co-worker who is griping about a manager you can say, it sounds like you're discouraged. Or with a child who is mad because you won't buy the shoes they want, ask what they are concerned about. Maybe they don't want to be made fun of at school. Raise your relational IQ. Start listening to what lies beneath.
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About the Guest
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The masters of relationships know how to hear what's not being said. What lies beneath, if you will, unlike emotions and they respond to that instead of the words on the surface. So with a co-worker who is griping about a manager you can say, it sounds like you're discouraged. Or with a child who is mad because you won't buy the shoes they want, ask what they are concerned about. Maybe they don't want to be made fun of at school. Raise your relational IQ. Start listening to what lies beneath.
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Ron Deal
Ron L. Deal is one of the most widely read and viewed experts on blended families in the country. He is Director of FamilyLife Blended® for FamilyLife®, founder of Smart Stepfamilies™, and the author and Consulting Editor of the Smart Stepfamily Series of books including the bestselling Building Love Together in Blended Families: The 5 Love Languages® and Becoming Stepfamily Smart (with Dr. Gary Chapman), The Smart Stepfamily: 7 Steps to a Healthy Family, and Preparing to Blend. Ron is a licensed marriage and family therapist, popular conference speaker, and host of the FamilyLife Blended podcast. He and his wife, Nan, have three sons and live in Little Rock, Arkansas. Learn more at FamilyLife.com/blended.
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Do you know how to listen beneath someone’s words?
Ron: Do you know how to listen beneath someone’s words?
Announcer: For FamilyLife Blended®, here’s Ron Deal.
Ron: The masters of relationships, they know how to hear what’s not being said. What lies beneath, if you will, unlike emotions and they respond to that instead of the words on the surface.
So with a co-worker who is griping about a manager you can say, it sounds like you’re really discouraged. Or with a child who is mad at you because you’re not buying the shoes they want, ask what they are concerned about. You might find that they don’t want to be made fun of at school. No, they still aren’t getting the shoes, but that concern-that’s something you want to hug and pay attention to. Raise your relational IQ. Start listening to what lies beneath. For FamilyLife Blended, I’m Ron Deal.
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