FamilyLife Blended® Minute

The Repair Myth

with Ron Deal | February 20, 2020
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It is so easy to insert unrealistic hopes into our decisions and then experience disappointment. I keep hearing disappointment from parents in blended families because they thought marriage would repair or restore everybody's losses. Well, it doesn't. But that doesn't mean marriage was the wrong decision. You just had misguided hope within the decision. A stepfamily is not a repaired first family; it's a different family with its own challenges and rewards. Stress is not evidence of failure.

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  • It is so easy to insert unrealistic hopes into our decisions and then experience disappointment. I keep hearing disappointment from parents in blended families because they thought marriage would repair or restore everybody's losses. Well, it doesn't. But that doesn't mean marriage was the wrong decision. You just had misguided hope within the decision. A stepfamily is not a repaired first family; it's a different family with its own challenges and rewards. Stress is not evidence of failure.

  • Ron Deal

    Ron L. Deal is one of the most widely read and viewed experts on blended families in the country. He is Director of FamilyLife Blended® for FamilyLife®, founder of Smart Stepfamilies™, and the author and Consulting Editor of the Smart Stepfamily Series of books including the bestselling Building Love Together in Blended Families: The 5 Love Languages® and Becoming Stepfamily Smart (with Dr. Gary Chapman), The Smart Stepfamily: 7 Steps to a Healthy Family, and Preparing to Blend. Ron is a licensed marriage and family therapist, popular conference speaker, and host of the FamilyLife Blended podcast. He and his wife, Nan, have three sons and live in Little Rock, Arkansas. Learn more at FamilyLife.com/blended.

Have you ever made a decision and discovered it wasn’t everything you hoped?