Stepparent Tip #4: Monitor
About the Guest
Eager stepparents have the best of intentions but sometimes they jump into the middle of a child's life too quickly. So here is a tip. A stepparent monitors. Monitoring means you check in with them about band practice, ask them about friends, the upcoming math test and what they want for Christmas. But you don't step into the child's personal life, feelings, and concerns until they invite you in. Take a small step before you take a bigger step. You won't just be the hall monitor forever.
Ron DealRon L. Deal is one of the most widely read and viewed experts on blended families in the country. He is Director of FamilyLife Blended® for FamilyLife®, founder of Smart Stepfamilies™, and the author and Consulting Editor of the Smart Stepfamily Series
Wise new stepparents are like hall monitors. They know what’s going on but they aren’t always a part of it.