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Saying Stupid Is Stupid

with Ron Deal | April 26, 2023
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Jackie's husband corrects her 14-year old's behavior like if he forgets to bring home an assignment from school by calling it stupid. Jackie's concerned that her son will hear, “You are stupid.” I think she's right. That's likely what her son will hear, especially if her husband repeats that type of thing over and over. Hey, kids internalize criticism. So, compliment their character and avoid labeling their behavior. You didn't like it when I called you stupid; don't label them stupid.

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  • Jackie's husband corrects her 14-year old's behavior like if he forgets to bring home an assignment from school by calling it stupid. Jackie's concerned that her son will hear, “You are stupid.” I think she's right. That's likely what her son will hear, especially if her husband repeats that type of thing over and over. Hey, kids internalize criticism. So, compliment their character and avoid labeling their behavior. You didn't like it when I called you stupid; don't label them stupid.

  • Ron Deal

    Ron L. Deal is one of the most widely read and viewed experts on blended families in the country. He is Director of FamilyLife Blended® for FamilyLife®, founder of Smart Stepfamilies™, and the author and Consulting Editor of the Smart Stepfamily Series of books including the bestselling Building Love Together in Blended Families: The 5 Love Languages® and Becoming Stepfamily Smart (with Dr. Gary Chapman), The Smart Stepfamily: 7 Steps to a Healthy Family, and Preparing to Blend. Ron is a licensed marriage and family therapist, popular conference speaker, and host of the FamilyLife Blended podcast. He and his wife, Nan, have three sons and live in Little Rock, Arkansas. Learn more at FamilyLife.com/blended.

Okay, it’s a bit hypocritical, but here goes: Saying “stupid” to your kids is stupid.

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Saying Stupid Is Stupid

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Ron: Okay, it’s a bit hypocritical, but here goes: Saying “stupid” to your kids is stupid.

Announcer: For FamilyLife Blended®, here’s Ron Deal.

Ron: Okay, did you feel a little offended when I implied that you were stupid? I’ll come back to that. Jackie’s husband corrects her 14-year-old’s behavior like if he forgets to bring home an assignment from school by calling it stupid. Jackie’s concerned that her son will hear, “You are stupid.” I think she’s right. That’s likely what her son will hear, especially if her husband repeats that type of thing over and over.

Hey, kids internalize criticism. So, compliment their character and avoid labeling their behavior. You didn’t like it when I called you stupid; don’t label them stupid. For FamilyLife Blended, I’m Ron Deal.

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