Four Levels of Love
French abbot Bernard of Clairvaux said there are four levels of love. First, the lowest level is to love myself solely. (That's not love. That's being self-absorbed.) Second, to love you for my sake. (That's using people.) Third, to love you for your sake. (That's more like it. Selflessness.) But the highest level of love, he said, is to love myself for your sake. Didn't Jesus say to love your neighbor as yourself? Knowing you're valuable so you can give yourself away sounds like Jesus to me.
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French abbot Bernard of Clairvaux said there are four levels of love. First, the lowest level is to love myself solely. (That's not love. That's being self-absorbed.) Second, to love you for my sake. (That's using people.) Third, to love you for your sake. (That's more like it. Selflessness.) But the highest level of love, he said, is to love myself for your sake. Didn't Jesus say to love your neighbor as yourself? Knowing you're valuable so you can give yourself away sounds like Jesus to me.
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Ron Deal
Ron L. Deal is one of the most widely read and viewed experts on blended families in the country. He is Director of FamilyLife Blended® for FamilyLife®, founder of Smart Stepfamilies™, and the author and Consulting Editor of the Smart Stepfamily Series of books including the bestselling Building Love Together in Blended Families: The 5 Love Languages® and Becoming Stepfamily Smart (with Dr. Gary Chapman), The Smart Stepfamily: 7 Steps to a Healthy Family, and Preparing to Blend. Ron is a licensed marriage and family therapist, popular conference speaker, and host of the FamilyLife Blended podcast. He and his wife, Nan, have three sons and live in Little Rock, Arkansas. Learn more at FamilyLife.com/blended.
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Ron Deal
Ron L. Deal is one of the most widely read and viewed experts on blended families in the country. He is Director of FamilyLife Blended® for FamilyLife®, founder of Smart Stepfamilies™, and the author and Consulting Editor of the Smart Stepfamily Series of books including the bestselling Building Love Together in Blended Families: The 5 Love Languages® and Becoming Stepfamily Smart (with Dr. Gary Chapman), The Smart Stepfamily: 7 Steps to a Healthy Family, and ...more
So what’s your level of love?
