20 First Dates

John Townsend and Henry Cloud, authors of Boundaries, gave advice to Steve, a friend of mine. Get acquainted with 20 different women before beginning to date any of them. Why twenty? There's not anything special about the number of people but the approach made Steve slow down and stay objective: he'd have to regulate his desire and his pain and not let either make the decisions for him. No, this strategy is not for everyone. But staying objective and managing yourself is.