What is your understanding of submission in marriage? How do you think your spouse would answer that question?
What is your understanding of how the husband and wife roles in marriage differ? How do you think your spouse would answer that question?
What would you like to change about the way you and your spouse relate as husband and wife? What keeps you from making that change?
What was your mother like? In what ways have you as a wife imitated her and in what ways are you different?
What do you think the Bible means when it says the husband is to be the “head” of the home?
What do you think it means for a wife to be a helper? (Gen.2:18)
Do you know a woman who seems to be a good role model as a wife? What makes this person come to mind? Have you ever sought wisdom from her?
What resources have you read on the subject of submission in marriage? How have those been helpful to you?
In what ways do you honor your husband and his leadership role in your marriage? How does he respond?
In what ways do you undermine your husband and his leadership role in your marriage? How does he respond?
What would you say are the main things that hold you back from submitting to your husband in your marriage?
Do you give your husband space to think issues through and then to initiate and lead, or do you lose patience and take over? How does that generally work out?
Have you ever considered that maybe your husband wants to lead and is waiting for you to allow him to take that role?
Do you feel your husband is open to your input? Do you feel valued by him?
Is your marriage relationship a safe place to disagree or do you fear conflict?
What are some simple things your husband could do to give you more confidence in defering to his leadership? Have you graciously and respectfully discussed those with him? How did he respond?
Once you have discussed an issue, do you defer to his leadership decisions?
Do you realize that your husband will be held accountable by God? How does that impact how you treat him?
How can you begin to trust God to do His part as you do yours?
Submission does not mean living in fear. Have you or the children ever had reason to be afraid of abuse?
Do you have any specific questions or concerns you'd like to discuss with me?
Are you open to taking a look at Scripture together about being a godly wife?
I believe that the most important relationship in your life is the one you have with Jesus Christ. Can you tell me about that?
What is one step you can take in the right direction and how can I help you do that?
